Don't fall into the trap of being your middle
Your child is growing up before your eyes. He may look morelike a young adult and less like a young child. He canunderstand concepts that escaped him a year ago.
Remember that he is still your child and not your peer. He needs you to be the parent and he still needs to respect you and other adults.
Follow this advice:
Insist that your child speak politely to you and other adults. Don't allow your child to talk to you when she is being rude. Walk away and do not grant her wishes until she speaks respectfully.
Require your child to follow your rules. Middle schoolers shouldn't have a huge list of rules, but a few important ones that must be followed. Consider withholding privileges if your child willfully breaks rules.
Do not try to be the "cool parent" in the neighborhood. You should be kind and caring to your child and her friends, but you are not "one of the girls/boys." Children lose respect for parents who act like children.
Do not make decisions based on what would please your child and her friends. They might like if you paid for them all to see an R-rated movie, but is it a wise parenting choice? Trust yourself as the adult and make decisions accordingly.
Reprinted with permission from the April 2014 issue of Parents Still make the difference!® (Middle School Edition) newsletter. Copyright © 2014 The Parent Institute®, a division of NIS, Inc. Source: C. Giannetti and M. Sagarese, The Roller-Coaster Years: Raising Your Child Through the Maddening Yet Magical Middle School Years, Broadway Books.