Be patient and creative
when communicating with your child
When your child was in elementary school, she probably couldn't wait
to tell you what she learned in math class or who she played with
But now that she's older, you're lucky to get a mumbled Fine when you
ask how her day went. And as hard as that can be for parents, its a
normal part of moving toward adulthood.
Of course, that doesn't mean the lines of communication between you
and your child must slam shut. It just means you need to be
creative about keeping them open. Here's how:
- Keep asking questions. Prepare for curt replies, but don't give
up on learning about your child's life. Don't interrogate her, but do
let her know you care about her. Try simple questions like, Who did
you eat lunch with? or What did you work on during study hall?
- Stop and listen. Occasionally, your child may surprise you by
wanting to share something. Don't miss it because you're busy
checking your email. If she comes up and says, The coolest thing
happened today, stop what you're doing and give her your undivided
- Go high-tech. Rather than poke your head into her room every
five minutes, send her a text. Shell probably be so shocked that
you'll get her attention!